Psalm 34:18 (NIV)
The Lord is close to the brokenhearted
and saves those who are crushed in spirit.
To all of you out there who are suffering with a broken heart from a break up, I want to tell you as strongly as I can in words that I wish with all my heart that I could reach through this screen and hug you.
Not one of those two second hugs but a hug for as long as you needed it hug. A “it’s OK to fall apart and cry” hug. I wish I could look you in the eye and tell you that it is OK to let it out.
Emotional pain is nothing to ignore. Avoiding it will gnaw at you. I do believe in being strong, but there are also times to ugly cry with abandon…
You are Not Alone
I have been where you’ve been [maybe a post for another day?]. I remember being 18 and sitting utterly crushed by a relationship that I was sure would last. I tried to be strong and a simple, “Are you doing OK?” brought me to sobs.
JUST REMEMBER THAT YOU ARE NOT ALONE!
In these moments, and other moments of grief and crisis, the devil wants you to feel like you are the only one who has ever felt this way and that you are a weirdo for feeling the way you do.
LIES. ALL LIES. Let me repeat that again. LIES. The devil is the father of all lies and there is no truth in him. [John 8:44].
I wish I had a magic formula to instantly make you feel better, but sorting through pain is always a process, and it can be a beautiful one. God really does work all things together for the good. [Romans 8:28].
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Truths to help the hurt:
1. God is with you. [Psalm 34:18]
The verse at the beginning of the post isn’t lying. God is near to those who are brokenhearted and crushed. He is our comforter and He will comfort you in your distress. Don’t feel it? Sincerely pray and ask him to give you comfort. Put on some worship music and you will feel His comfort.
2. Guard your heart. [Proverbs 24:12]
The Bible says over and over again to guard your heart. At your age, relationships are fleeting and if you pour everything you have into it, you will continually to be utterly crushed. Fix your heart on Jesus. The heart is easily swayed and the devil will use it against you if he gets the chance.
3. It’s OK to Cry!!!!! [Ecclesiastes 3:4]
I was extremely fortunate to have an amazing father whose philosophy on crying is, “Just let it out…”and that is exactly what I would do, just cry and cry into his shoulder. If you feel like you have no one, see truth #1; God will comfort you because with Him, you are never alone.
4. …but don’t stay there too long. [Ecclesiastes 3:4]
In the verse in Ecclesiastes 3:4, it says there is a time to weep AND a time to laugh. We are not meant to stay in the weeping stage forever. Your wound will heal. Some take longer than others, but it will get better. I don’t want you to ruin anymore of your future days pining for the past.
5. God will work it together for your good. [Romans 8:28]
As mentioned earlier, God used my heartache for good. If nothing else, it inspired me to write this post, and even if that only helps one person, it’s worth it for me. It’s worth it for someone else to learn more about God’s truth and that He is our ultimate comforter.
A prayer for the brokenhearted
I know this is not the pattern of every post, but I want to write the prayer I prayed over this post. Hopefully it will help you to know that you are not alone.
Dear God,
I come before you on behalf of every brokenhearted person that reads this. I pray that you will be a real comfort to them in a way they have never felt before. In a way that grows their faith in you. I pray that you remind them that you have a plan for their lives and it is good. I pray you send them people to walk this journey with them and that they will feel your comfort in a tangible way. Dry their tears and heal their hearts.
In Jesus name, Amen.
If you need more than this post…
If you want to read a book that will help you through the break up process that will also make you laugh (hopefully 🙂 ) then check out this book by Chad Eastham. He wrote a great book called The Truth About Breaking Up, Making Up, and Moving On
Love to you,
-Sarah
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