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5 Characteristics Christians Should Exhibit Based on 1 John

October 29, 2020

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If you consider yourself a Christian, then one or both of the following questions has likely entered your mind.

How do I know I’m saved?
How do I show someone who believes they are saved, but is living in open unrepentant sin, that he/she might not understand true conversion?

During my Christian life, I have wrestled with both of these questions. After much search and study, I think a good place to consider the answers to them is 1 John.

Why 1 John?

For quite awhile, I had been contending with the second question listed above. One day, while reading through 1 John, God through the Holy Spirit allowed me to see that John lays out clearly and specifically some characteristics true Christians should possess.

Before we fully dive in, I highly recommend that either before you continue reading, or after you finish this post, that you take time to read through 1 John yourself for full context.

Please know that I am not here “judge” anyone’s salvation. Also, I know we are not saved through works, etc.; this is just meant as a starting point for consideration and further study.

Below are the characteristics. First I will provide the characteristics, the evidence from 1 John, and a brief commentary. Let’s go!

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How to Talk to a Friend Making Negative Life Choices

November 5, 2019

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In the last post, I discussed three signs that a friend may be going down a destructive path or is making negative life choices.

To follow that up, I wanted to discuss a caring way you can talk to your friend to try and figure out what is going on.

True friends look out for each other. One of the best things you can do is talk to them about what you see happening and that you are genuinely worried about them.

A Foundational Bible Verse

Matthew 18:15-17 provides the way to keep one another accountable. This verse is more applicable in church discipline, but can work in almost any situation. Below is the verse, then I will break it down.

If your brother sins against you, go and tell him his fault, between you and him alone. If he listens to you, you have gained your brother. But if he does not listen, take one or two others along with you, that every charge may be established by the evidence of two or three witnesses. If he refuses to listen to them, tell it to the church. And if he refuses to listen even to the church, let him be to you as a Gentile and a tax collector.”

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How to Keep Other Christians Accountable for Sin

April 5, 2018

In my last post, I discussed why it’s OK to keep other Christians accountable when it comes to sin. I broke down that in our modern Christian culture it has somehow become taboo to “call each other out” for sin and if we don’t do it, we aren’t helping each other grow spiritually.

Since I said we should do it, I wanted to also share how to do it. The following scriptures explain how to do this process effectively.

Remember, this process should be entered into prayerfully and should also only be done with someone you already have an established positive relationship with. The other person needs to already know you have a sincere heart and a genuine concern for his/her well being.

So, here we go…

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What to Say When a Guy Asks You for “Photos”

January 18, 2018

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Maddie sat in her bedroom with her phone debating what to say. She had been crushing hard on a guy named Austin and they had been talking for a couple months. A few minutes before, she received a text from Austin that said, “Since we’ve been talking for awhile now, I’d like to get to know you even more. Can you send me pics?”

She knew she should tell him no, but she was feeling a whirlwind of emotions and wasn’t sure exactly how to put it in writing. She knew if she simply said, “no,” he would respond with, “Why not” and didn’t know how to explain it.

Have you or a friend ever been in Maddie’s situation?

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